here is crap that I had to do (in a nut shell )
backup the database
download a siteshaper 2.5
add new database
manually import the articles, menus, etc to the new siteshaper database via MySQL
import all the pictures via ftp
check everything in and make sure there is nothing not needing updates
as per Joomla, buy the ACL Manager and install Akeeba
back that up
adding no other 3rd party components
and then backed it up again!
followed the explicit instructions of the joomla 3x update and success! no errors
ran ACL, check in, looked for updates etc...
Menu did not work, but i could type the url and they would show up
read hours of tech support docs...
contact shape 5 tech support
and here i am... asking WTF
I disabled just about everything i could